Dating Profile Tips Over 50: Flirty Now, Filthy Later

A casual dating profile that works after 50 has three or four recent, clear photos, a headline with a bit of cheek, and a few plain lines about what you're after and what you're like. Say straight out that you want something casual, keep it suggestive rather than explicit, and give people an easy reason to message you first.

Which Photos Should You Use on a Dating Profile Over 50?

Recent ones. A photo from ten years ago wins a message and loses the meet, because the first thing your date does is compare. Stick to pictures from the last year or two.

• Lead with your face. Good light, no sunnies, a real grin. Daylight by a window beats any filter.
• Add one full-length shot. People want to see all of you, and owning your shape is sexy in itself.
• Show something you enjoy. On the boat, in the garden, at the footy. It hands someone an opening line.
• Dress like it's a date. A bit of effort says you mean it, even if what you're after is anything but serious.
• Ditch the group shots and the ex. Nobody should have to guess which one is you, and a cropped-off arm round your shoulder says more than you think.

Keep your main photos tasteful. Anything potentially explicit gets blurred behind a warning for other members anyway, and a bit of mystery does more for you than showing the lot on day one.

How Do You Write a Dating Headline That Gets Noticed?

Your headline is what people read before they decide whether to open your profile. Skip "Hi there" and "Just ask". Give them a hint of personality, a hint of mischief, or both. A few we've written to show the idea:

• "Retired, restless and up for some fun"
• "Good cook, better kisser, free most arvos"
• "Divorced, not dead"
• "After a regular Thursday night thing"
• "Northern Beaches, early riser, late finisher"

How Do You Say You Want Casual Sex Without Being Crude?

Be clear about the arrangement and save the details for private messages. "After something casual and physical, with someone I actually enjoy talking to" says everything that matters. Your profile also lets you pick the kind of connection you want and tick off what you're into, say outdoor fun, video chat or a bit of roleplay, so your match suggestions do some of the legwork.

A handy rule: write it so you wouldn't mind a mate reading over your shoulder. An explicit shopping list puts off the people you most want to hear from and pulls in the ones you least want. Flirty, confident and specific lands far better than graphic.

Mature Female Dating Profile Examples

We wrote these for this guide. They're not real members, and they're here to pinch ideas from, not to copy word for word.

• "Sixty-one, freshly single and remembering how much I like being flirted with. After a regular lover, not a husband: dinner, a few laughs, then we'll see. Clean, discreet and funny gets my attention."
• "Fifty-four, grown-up kids, busy job, zero interest in moving anyone in. Looking for a friend with benefits who makes me laugh and knows the difference between confident and pushy."
• "Widowed a few years back and ready for some fun again. Not looking to be anyone's wife. Coffee first, and if we click, I'm a lot less shy than I look."

Dating Profile Examples for Men Over 50

Same rules: straight, confident, a bit cheeky. Also written by us, purely as examples.

• "Fifty-eight, fit enough, single two years. After an easy, regular arrangement with a woman who likes good food and a bit of mischief. Patient, attentive, and I always bring the wine."
• "Semi-retired tradie on the Sunshine Coast. Not after a girlfriend, after someone to have some fun with now and then. Discreet, easygoing and happy to go at your pace."

Younger bloke after an older woman? The same rules apply: "Forty-two, Brisbane, and I've always had a thing for older women. Confident, discreet and very happy to let you call the shots." Then have a read of casual sex with an older woman, or find out why so many men want an older woman.

What Should You Leave Off a Dating Profile?

Your surname, your workplace, your street and your phone number. Your profile only shows your nearest town, and that's all anyone needs until you've met. Skip the long list of what you don't want, too; it reads as bitter, and bitter is nobody's idea of foreplay.

Once it's done, take the free ID check for a Verified badge. It's a quiet signal you're real, and it gives a cautious match one less reason to hold back. Before any meet, read up on hooking up safely over 50. First time out since a long marriage? Read casual dating after divorce, and the safety page explains how members are protected.