Why Fuck Older Women?

Short answer: because sex with an older woman tends to be more relaxed, more direct and a lot more fun. A woman past 50 has had decades to work out what she enjoys, she isn't shy about saying so, and she's long past playing games. For plenty of blokes, that confidence is the hottest thing in the room.

Confidence Is the Real Turn-On

Her looks don't hurt, but they're rarely what hooks a bloke. It's the way she walks into the pub like she owns the joint. By her fifties she has usually made peace with her body, every curve and every story it tells, and stopped apologising for any of it. You can't fake that, and it's sexy as anything.

It takes the pressure off you, too. A lover who's comfortable in her own skin doesn't need constant reassurance. She's more likely to be laughing in bed, and a laugh in bed is where a lot of the good stuff starts.

She's Done This Before, and It Shows

Practice doesn't make perfect, but it does make a lover curious and unhurried. An older woman has usually worked out which touches she likes, what leaves her cold and how long she wants things to last. Instead of guessing, you get shown, and being taught by someone who enjoys teaching is a real treat.

Experience cuts both ways, mind. She'll notice in about five seconds if you're only in it for yourself. The blokes who get asked back are generous, attentive and happy to take direction.

She'll Tell You Exactly What She Wants

Good sex runs on good chat, and this is where the years pay off. A woman with a few decades behind her tends to find it easier to say what she'd like more of, what she's always wanted to try and where her limits sit. That makes consent clear and the whole night more relaxed for both of you.

Same goes for the practical side. Bodies change after menopause, and a woman who knows hers will bring up lube, positions or pace without going red. If you want to know what changes and what doesn't, the guide to sex drive after 50 explains it without the jargon, and sexual health over 50 deals with protection and testing.

No Games, No Guesswork

Someone who has raised kids, run a business or come out the other side of a divorce has no time for mixed messages. If she wants something casual, she'll tell you. If she wants you gone by midnight, she'll tell you that too. For a bloke who also wants to keep things light, that's gold.

It works for men over 50 as well. Two people of the same vintage with no plans to set up house together can enjoy each other on easy terms, minus all the expectations that came with dating at twenty-five.

How to Get Her Attention, and Keep It

All of the above goes out the window if you treat her like a fantasy instead of a woman. Use her name, not a label. Ask questions and actually listen to the answers. Don't open with her age, and keep the photos she hasn't asked for to yourself. Turn up on time and sober enough to remember the night. None of it is rocket science, and it'll put you streets ahead in her inbox.

For the nuts and bolts of finding someone, read casual sex with an older woman. Before the first meet, the safety page and hooking up safely over 50 will keep things easy for the pair of you.

Find an Older Lover in Australia

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